Do you ever stand back and look at your life, assess it, think about what works for you and what doesn’t? Few people do. Bowled along by busy life, we can be too caught up and let our lives be morphed into something that isn’t really where we want to be. We can end up with a life that just doesn’t really work for us. It doesn’t have to be in a serious way, but just to the point where improvements could be made, if only we took time to recognise them and act on them.
You might remember our article from last year: Finding Your Place On Life’s Spectrums. It talks about how, instead of life being full of extremes, it should actually be full of spectrums. Instead of being one thing or the other, we can be a mixture… and that’s ok. It encourages you to work out where you are on life’s different spectrums, be it in your work or personal life.
And once you’ve done that, and know what really makes you tick and happy, you can then take the next step to creating a life that works for you. But it’s quite an abstract concept, isn’t it? How do we determine what works for us and what doesn’t? Here, we’re going to give you some examples of what you might like to think about.
Your working environment
We spend a lot of time at work. And it can be so detrimental to mental health and wellbeing if that space doesn’t work for you. Open-plan offices can be a nightmare for people who can’t concentrate with noise around them. Working from home can be just as frustrating for those who thrive off the buzz and social aspect of the office.
With the rise in hybrid working, most of us are now lucky enough to be able to split our work between the office and home, which is a huge step towards us being able to choose what works best for us.
Noisy, lively environments
Talking about noisy offices leads us to noise in general. Do you love it or hate it? Some people find hustle and bustle energising and invigorating. They love the sensory aspect, so will come away from noisy environments feeling fabulous. Others find them incredibly uncomfortable and come away drained and even anxious. They’ll need time to recover in a quiet space. Their nerves could be so frayed that they even end up having an angry outburst.
Whichever group you sit in, choose to put yourself in the environment that works for you as much as possible. Sometimes we can’t avoid noise and bustle. But the key point is, don’t feel you should enjoy it just because others do. It’s ok to say no and choose an evening reading your book on the sofa when your friends are going out to a crowded bar. Why should, or would, you choose to do something in your spare time that you don’t enjoy?
One-to-one, small group, a crowd?
What size of group do you feel most comfortable in? Having a coffee and a catch with just one friend? Going out for a meal with a small intimate group? Or getting together with a room full of other people?
Life presents us with all these options. And it’s easy to get a strong case of FOMO (fear of missing out), but what’s the point in putting yourself in an event with lots of other people when you’ll come away feeling much more invigorated from a one-to-one outing with a close friend? Or, indeed, vice versa.
Live where you love
Now, not everyone has the freedom to live exactly where they choose. Often, it is determined by family ties and work commitments. But even if you can’t move across the country to live by the sea because that’s where your heart yearns to be, then could you choose to live somewhere within the region of where you’re based that offers a compromise – maybe by a river, or a lake? Or, if that isn’t possible, then make sure to incorporate regular trips to the places you love.
And if you can make the move to live where you dream of, then do it. Nothing is better for your wellbeing than surrounding yourself in what you love. This could equally be the big city – the lights, the noise, the hustle and bustle provide excitement for those who thrive from it!
These are just a few examples of how you can make changes to create a life that works for you. The list is endless and we could write a whole book on it! But remember, finding what works for you and implementing it into your life will only have a positive effect. Doing more of what you feel good doing will make you happier. That’s the bottom line.
So, spend some time thinking about the things that make you feel good – and do more of them. And think about the things that make you feel bad – and do less of them. It’s not as simple as it sounds, but the benefits of it are huge – and often life-changing.
Let us know in the comments or on socials what changes you’d like to make to create a life that works for you.